Last Thursday I went out to Fever for their college night as the designated driver. Usually going anywhere on a college night as the DD isn't going to be the most enjoyable experience, but I decided to make the best of it and do some some people watching for my own entertainment. I discovered a few things that I thought were worth noting.
For one, even if you carry a coke in your hands people assume (especially men) that it's alcohol, and because of that will approach you much more often. Secondly, when a guy would approach me it was obviously with a future hook-up session in the back of his mind because he thought that since I was drinking I would be getting drunk in the near future.
Don't believe me? I asked every single one of them. Alcohol is the best truth serum in my opinion, and maybe they chalked my boldness up to cheeky flirtation, but when I sarcastically asked, "Do you think you're going to get anywhere flirting with me?" they all smiled and said yes. It was enough to make you swear off men for good.
When attempting to talk to my drunken girlfriends on the way home, I asked them why we even bothered putting ourselves in that situation. For a second the car got quiet until someone shouted, "because we can and it gets us drinks!" They all started laughing like we were the ones who benefited from this master scheme, but after our classes it irks me. We're the ones being degraded because we submit to taking these drinks, and after watching it done for an entire night it really bothers me what people will put out of their minds for the sake of living in the moment.
Subscribe to:
Post Comments (Atom)
4 comments:
I think this is something that has been happening for a long time, such as ladies night and free drinks for women. The thing is, women are perpuating those things as well, by letting themselves being taken advantage off, becuase it makes them feel as though they are more atracmakes tive, and that them feel good about themselves.
I agree with both of you. Women are doing themselves a huge disfavor by allowing men to judge them and take advantage of them. We can't make a lot of progress in the efforts to help women if we don't know that we are in need of help ourselves.
I think that the "bar scene" is a place where stereotypes and prejudice really come out. The bar is completely about sex. We dress up in our cutest clothes and lots of makeup to go to a dirty, dark place where everyone is drunk?? It is a backwards idea really.
Men buying drinks for women is definitely giving into stereotypes and isn't really right. I think it can go both ways though - men aren't always in charge of the situation. In fact, I think many rely on the woman to figure out what the situation is. Also, women hit on men too.
That said, the bar is about sex, and does reflect the lack of respect or weak position of women in our society.
I agree with Liz. When I used to go out to the bar it was to meet guys. Not hook up guys but guys i could be friends with or date. I have since realized how crazy that idea is. You are not going to find a boyfriend or guy friend at the bar. Guys at the bar are only trying to hook up with you. Sometimes I hate going to the bars here because its always creepy guys trying to buy you drinks. I don't mind the drink buying but they always expect dancing or something else. It's never free. It's so easy for women to be taken advantage of in this situation. Girls do not want to buy their own drinks so they will allow guys to do so. I have so many friends that will dance or flirt with guys that they do not like just so that they can save the money.
Post a Comment